Growing up, my Dad constantly used this slogan, "Nolan, remember, you only have control over your Attitude and your Effort. That's it."
Over the years, whenever the sense of overwhelm starts creeping back in, I find freedom in reminding myself that I don't have control over the outcome and all I actually can control is my attitude and my effort.
Lets break it down a bit:
Attitude can be defined as a predisposition or a tendency to respond positively or negatively towards a certain idea, object, person, or situation. Attitude influences an individual's choice of action, and responses to challenges, incentives, and rewards.
Effort is defined as the use of physical or mental energy, the act of trying to do something.
Whatever you are currently engaged in you simply cannot control the outcome. Give it up. Whether its in sports, business, or life.
In sports, you can't control whether the ball is gonna go into the hoop, goal or over the fence. But does it affect your attitude when it does or doesnt? Or God forbid the referee makes a call against you... Does it change the energy or intensity you play with or how you treat your teammates and coaches?
In business, it's hard to control how much money you make, who your colleagues or bosses are and how they do their jobs, but you can control how you approach the task at hand. Are you approaching your work with a sense of optimism and enthusiasm, an "I GET TO...!" attitude versus an "I have to..." attitude. Are you approaching your co-workers with love and respect even when they don't reciprocate the gesture?
In love and relationships, you cant control your partner. You cant control their actions or non-actions. All you can control is your attitude towards them, and the effort you put into the relationship.
If you are ever feeling overwhelmed or out of control, remember to bring it back to the basics, "control the controllables", you cannot control any of the outcomes, just the process which can be broken down to your attitude & effort - focus on those and then let the chips fall where they may.
I hope you find some freedom in that...